10 Ways to Fall Back in Love with Life

Simple Practices to Come Back Home to Yourself

Have you fallen out of love with life? Or, have you fallen out of love with the version of life you’ve been living?

It turns out, this existential feeling is quite normal, and generally means your internal growth has outpaced your external circumstances.

If you find yourself here, this is actually a beautiful part of being human, and in life. If you let it, it can serve as the soil for your most beautiful chapter yet.

Inevitably, there will be moments where we feel stuck, or more simply put, not in love with life.

As I’ve stepped into my 30s, I’ve found life seems to be layered with moments that are so beautiful they bring tears to your eyes, sandwiched between moments that feel more trying.

Those days where we wonder, “how did I get here?” Or even worse, “this can’t be it…”

If you’ve found yourself here, you’re not alone.

Over the past few years I have undergone immense transformation, and as I continue to build a life that feels as good as it looks, I have developed some simple practices that have helped me fall in love with the process.

1. Visualize Your Dream Life

While we aren’t in control of life and there is something to be said for allowing things to simply “be”. I do believe we can create the architecture to provide direction towards what we actually want.

My mom used to say, “Shoot for the moon, you might land on a star.” I have carried this principle with me and found that anytime I wasn’t in love with life, it was because I was deviating from what I truly wanted.

Journal Prompt: “If I had a magic wand, and I knew with certainty I would not fail, this is what my [insert category here] looks like. The categories I write out are: home, family, community, work, relationship, inner world.

2. Life Audit

Inevitably, when we’re not in love with life, there is something we’re doing or holding on to that our inner selves knows isn’t right for us.

Once you know exactly what you want your dream life to look like, take some time to yourself to identify what is out of alignment.

I will warn you, sometimes this is tough…you might see things you wish you didn’t. I often ask myself, “What am I pretending not to know?”

The key to this step is to find the courage within to take action to eliminate or change the things that you see. This can be gut wrenching, but also freeing.

3. Date Nights

Try placing a once a week “date” in your calendar. It can be a dance class, pilates & coffee, dinner with yourself, an hour in the bath tub. Whatever makes you feel so happy and cared for inside.

I started doing this a few years ago and while I don’t do it every week, I have found that even seeing it on my calendar reminds me to take a little time for myself.

It reminds me that I am responsible for caring for me. ◡̈

4. Asking, “Who is running the show?”

Life is full of good days, bad days, happy days, sad days. That’s part of what makes life beautiful. That said, whenever I encounter a day that feels particularly challenging, I stop and ask myself: who is running the show?

Generally, somewhere along the way, I’ve hit some sort of “speed bump” in life and my scared self, angry self, anxious self, avoidant self has taken over the wheel.

Pausing for a moment to allow my “highest self” to regain control inevitably turns my day around.

I ask myself: “How would my best self handle this situation?”